“What you are speaks so loudly , I cannot hear what you say.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson
Over the years, I’ve been advised to pay attention to a person’s core personality traits. Close friends dispensed this advice to me, while I was evaluating the behavior of someone else; usually while in the throes of disappointment.
It’s an old saying really: “A tiger can’t change its stripes.”
Core traits are often defined as “dispositional tendencies toward particular ways of thinking and behaving that are relatively consistent over time.” These tendencies are developed through childhood and usually ‘set’ by age 20.
To understand the caliber of human one is working with, we must be aware of their tendencies with the following elements.
Extraversion vs. Introversion.
Open to experience vs. Closed to experience
Conscientiousness vs. Unreliability
Emotional Stability vs. Neuroticism
Agreeableness vs. Antagonism
Clearly, actions speak louder than words.
If you are someone who looks for the good in others, take core traits into account as well. Core traits don’t lie, they don’t promise or pretend, and by seeing a person for who they really are, you will also have a realistic idea of what to expect.