In 2008, I posted a piece called “Never Marry a Man Who Has No Friends“, which remains one of my top posts here on WordPress. Now, I’d like to follow up with a post about girl-friendless women.
At some point in a woman’s life, she learns that friendships with her girl friends are a saving grace. Romantic relationships come and go, but girlfriends are forever. Friends are our lifelines. In times of self-doubt, they supply us with adamant positive reinforcement. And most of all, girl friends celebrate.
These relationships keep us rolling with life’s punches. When I do something like resume communications with an ex-love interest, it is my girl friends that will listen and remind me of why I stopped communication to begin with, but most of all it won’t get thrown in my face later. They will not judge me or say “oh my god I can’t believe you just started talking with him again so easy, you said he was blacklisted.” I turn to my girl friends for advice, and vice versa. We have shared years and years of our lives.
You don’t expect your family to listen objectively, do you? 😉
I’ve come across several girl-friendless women in my day. The one trait they all have in common, is low self-confidence. Securing the attention of a man/men is what lifts them out of their funk. To them, Girls night in, out, doesn’t make them feel warm inside. In fact, they see other women as competition. Needless to say, these types of people are not very much fun.
So if you know someone who doesn’t have friends, it’s usually not by chance.
Do you agree?