Six Easy Ways of Decency

Host social gatherings that leave the guests walking out happier than when they arrived.  Doing this will keep your social skills sharp, because believe me, we all need them. Use anger to your advantage. Anger is your call to action. Don’t react; think about strategy and respond in a smart way. Practice active listening.  This…

The Friendless Man

Back in 2008, I posted my take on the principle “Never Marry a Man Who Has No Friends.”  For those click link commitment phobes:  to sum it all up, men who do not have close bonds with others usually have intimacy issues and lackluster communication habits.  Father Pat Conner, and forget religion here- it’s not…

Meet The Internet

Bored?   The Internet is just a click away. The act of signing online has radically changed into basically always being online.  The internet is no longer closely associated with desktop computers.  My phone is a miniature computer hooked into the internet.  I’m not going to sit here and tell you about the science behind all…

Parallax : How to use Parallax to your advantage

Language is everything.  Words can push, pull, mediate, infuriate, crush, build ..you name it. Today, a word opened a door.  The door was google, and of course, a definition was born in the hallway of my mind. And there it is.  PARALLAX. The sound of it just floats of my tongue, so fluid.  So, me…

Nails these Days

We live in strange times. Especially when it comes to the state of ‘fashionable’ fingernails. Nowadays, nails are about tacky art, putting on the bling blingy, until your hands look like they got lost in the mall & ended up trying on the entire Sally Hansen decal line at Claire’s Boutique. Do you ever figure…

Why is there a Chainsaw in the Kitchen? (On loving a hoarder)

I love my father.  He is a wonderful man:  funny, thoughtful, and loving. Also: He is a hoarder.  Yes, like the kind you see on cable tv, except not so bad as to have rat infestations or raw sewage flowing through the house.  No.  None of that.   Dad is the guy you see huddled over…

Cat Marnell on the Death of Whitney Houston

Cat Marnell on the Death of Whitney Houston Cat Marnell is one of my favorite writers.  For many reasons. When Whitney Houston died of long-term drug abuse, many bloggers covered her life, but Cat Marnell (formerly of xoJane) wrote a truly insightful piece that illuminated the silence of drug addiction. Check this out.  It’s pretty…

How to Stop Worrying!

I come from a long line of worrywarts.  My cousin describes this nervous depression as “analysis paralysis,” and the entire side of my mom’s family suffers from this counterproductive affliction. Trust me.  It sucks!  I spend so much time worrying.  When I can’t worry myself into a completed status on one issue,  I just switch…

On 79sparrows and Blogging

90,833 hits Note to self:  PUBLISH this tonight I hate blogging, but I love writing.  When I’m “blogging,” I feel a pressure to live up to what I ASSUME and IMAGINE is of the readers satisfaction and liking, and in turn that stresses me out.   (Fellow bloggers:  Does this ever happen to you?)  I decide not…

Word of the Day: “Palatial”

pa·la·tial  •  /pəˈlāSHəl/ Adjective:  Resembling a palace in being spacious and splendid. Synonyms:  magnificent – sumptuous – splendid – grand – gorgeous EXAMPLE:

Liars and other Pet Peeves

I don’t anger easily.  So when I do, it is because someone did something really stupid.  There’s a little saying: Anger tells us when we have been betrayed-either by ourselves or by someone else.  Anger is our friend, like our gut.  Both send a strong signal; it’s up to us if and how we react….